I can’t do that….I am not skinny enough yet. I can’t teach that class, I don’t know absolutely everything. I can’t post that…my grammar is not always perfect. These are the things that run through my head…..constantly.
The things I let my inner critic hold me back from is sometimes mind boggling. The amount of weight I give to what other people think and what they say about what I do, is even more mind boggling.
I have avoided (and probably will continue to avoid) being in videos, pictures and television commercials because I don’t like the way I look. I have turned down opportunities to teach classes and take on clients until I am so over loaded with information that I could almost start a new business just on that subject. I am an over learner, which at times can come in handy.
However, in the meantime I am depriving others of information that could help them while I am waiting on perfection.
I have avoided posting things on facebook and writing blogs because my grammar, no matter how hard I try, never seems to be perfect enough for what I call the grammar police.
So, here are my choices. Curl up in the fetal position and sink into obscurity (my first and most comfortable inclination) or continue to try and push myself to do the things that make me uncomfortable. I can continue to let shame run who I am or I can continue to be my imperfect, flawed but worthy of love and respect self.
This was a big vulnerable blog for me. I hope, that with my stepping out it encourages someone else who needs to hear this message. What you have to contribute could be the one thing that could change someones business, relationship or life.
Waiting on perfection is a losing battle.
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat”