I Value Connection!

I have been so very busy with business and family stuff in the last six weeks that I have neglected one of my top values….connection.

Knowing that connection is so high on my list of values, I try and schedule time with people I care about and enjoy. Family emergencies and scheduling issues the last six weeks have made that very difficult. 

I was starting to feel disconnected and even a little depressed. Something was missing, and I just couldn’t put my finger on it. I teach this stuff and NOW I am a living example of just how important knowing and living a life based on values really is.

No matter how busy I get, no matter what life throws at me, I need to try my hardest to incorporate my top values into my life. I spent five of the last six weeks pouring out of my proverbial cup over and over again. I, we all need to replenish our cup or we are just not able to give our best to those around us.

Lucky for me, in the last three days I was able to spend a long day with a friend, have breakfast with another and then lunch with yet another. My energy has increased, my attitude is better and I am starting to get back to my happy, positive, normal (normal is a relative term) self.

What are the must have values you need in your life?

When you feel like something is missing, do you know why?

When are you at your best?

Knowing the answers to these questions can shed some light on your true values. Knowing your true values can help you to start living a more fulfilling life on purpose!

Go Go GO!

GO GO GO!……No wait….Slow Down.
After two days of lying around sick, I wake up on Monday morning with more energy and the promise of a beautiful sunny day. My first instinct is to make lists of everything that needs to get done today, which would also include everything I did not get done over the weekend due to illness.

Then, that small voice of self awareness perks up and says “In the past, you have made yourself sick again by over doing it. Is that really a good choice?”

The internal battle begins between my value of accomplishment and the reality of what I can really accomplish. I LOVE to get things done in a timely manner and just be done with it. Which for someone diagnosed with ADD is difficult at best and rarely happens. When it does happen, it feels great! I feel empowered. There are times however, when I can take that value too far. Like using the limited energy I have just recouped to try and accomplish too much in a short amount of time.

Knowing my value of accomplishment and my own history with it, good and bad, is helping me in the moment to make a conscious decision on how I want to spend my day.

Our values are often seen as strengths…as well they should be. AND being conscious of what and how we use those values can be a HUGE benefit as well.

Today, I am going to promise NOT to over do it. Which for me, IS an accomplishment!

365 Days Of Positive

Last year on January 2 or 3rd I had an epiphany. I was tired of seeing all the negative things being posted on facebook, heard on the news, printed in the paper and talked about at work and in social situations. I have always thought that a paper or news channel with only “Good News” would be a fun idea, but quite an undertaking. So, I decided to do what I could in my own little way and….#365daysofpositive was born.

I started looking for something positive every day. It could be anything, a joke, a flower, picture, something about my kids or even that the day was finally over and I was getting into my comfy bed. I decided I would do this for one year. I wanted to see what kind of a difference it made in my life…if any.

I am happy to say that I see and feel joy more often than I did in the past few years….maybe even ever. By making my #365day commitment public, I forced myself to look for something everyday that was positive. Even on some of my darkest days I found something to be thankful for. Now, I was in no way perfect on my #positive finds. Some days I forgot and others I just got lazy. I tried to make up for most of the missed days by adding in an extra positive for a few days, but I am sure I am still in a bit of a deficit.

The important thing is that I am happier because of my commitment to find the #positive in every day life. #365daysofpositive seems to have reached beyond me. I have been blessed to have people stop me around town to tell me how much they have loved my #positive posts. I have even had a few people in other countries tell me they appreciate #365daysofpositive. I am so grateful that people took the time to let me know it affected them in a positive way.

I want to point out however that I am not always happy. In fact, what I have found is that in order to feel that joy, I must also allow myself to feel sorrow and pain. Sometimes pain so deep, it felt like I would never come back. Rather then masking the pain, or burying it beneath work and general busyness, (a skill I have mastered) I took time to grieve, hurt or even get angry. I also took time out to pray more, thank God for what I do have and ask to be shown the lessons in my trials.

As 2014 comes to an end, so does my commitment to posting #365daysofpositive, but I will not stop looking the #positive everyday. It has made such a profound difference in my life that I would be crazy to stop now.

For 2015 I pan on looking for #blessings in disguise and creating a life based on the #values that God has placed in my heart.

May you find 2015 to be a year filled with #positive #blessings and much more.

Waiting on Perfection

I can’t do that….I am not skinny enough yet. I can’t teach that class, I don’t know absolutely everything. I can’t post that…my grammar is not always perfect. These are the things that run through my head…..constantly.

The things I let my inner critic hold me back from is sometimes mind boggling. The amount of weight I give to what other people think and what they say about what I do, is even more mind boggling.

I have avoided (and probably will continue to avoid) being in videos, pictures and television commercials because I don’t like the way I look. I have turned down opportunities to teach classes and take on clients until I am so over loaded with information that I could almost start a new business just on that subject. I am an over learner, which at times can come in handy.
However, in the meantime I am depriving others of information that could help them while I am waiting on perfection.

I have avoided posting things on facebook and writing blogs because my grammar, no matter how hard I try, never seems to be perfect enough for what I call the grammar police.

So, here are my choices. Curl up in the fetal position and sink into obscurity (my first and most comfortable inclination) or continue to try and push myself to do the things that make me uncomfortable. I can continue to let shame run who I am or I can continue to be my imperfect, flawed but worthy of love and respect self.

This was a big vulnerable blog for me. I hope, that with my stepping out it encourages someone else who needs to hear this message. What you have to contribute could be the one thing that could change someones business, relationship or life.

Waiting on perfection is a losing battle.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat”

Theodore Roosevelt